How to Avoid the Validation Trap

How to Avoid the Validation Trap

Why do you get nervous before an interview? When you see someone attractive, why don’t you talk to him/her? Pressure. Pressure is what prevents us from really enjoying life and doing what’s necessary to get the results we want. We feel pressure because of expectations – expectations we’ve built up in our minds, expectations that [...]

Saying Goodbye to ‘I’m Not Good Enough’

Saying Goodbye to ‘I’m Not Good Enough’

I’ve been a perfectionist for as long as I can remember—always caring about what other people think, worrying about being judged, and overanalyzing everything. As a kid, I never raised my hand in class even if I was 99% sure I knew the answer, constantly second-guessing myself. In my success-driven mind, every bad score on a [...]